The book went into the extremely long time it takes for humans to grow to maturity. You take a dog or a cat and after a few months the whole parent thing is over. But with humans it is quite different. It takes many years to get one’s children raised and thinking for themselves.
The Author suggested that human’s high level of sexuality was there to “pair bond” people so they would tend to stay together for this extended child rearing time. He believed that humans were made to forestall that first sexual encounter until it was with a person they would join in a lasting relationship and that the woman’s hymen was made to encourage this decision.
While I think that we are the creation of God and not a cosmic accident, I do agree that this bonding is one reason that God forbids premarital sexuality. It is entirely true that the sexual encounter does bond a man and woman together.
It is an important bond that is difficult for people to escape. Those who ignore God’s laws in this area will find that there are “ghosts” that haunt their future marriage. The bonds that are created by sexual relations are much more difficult to break than the laws of God, which are here to protect us and guide us to happiness.
This was my first glimpse into the world from God’s perspective. It was a starting point, but a shallow one. The truth is that our existence is more a spiritual journey than it is physical. I have come to realize there are physical reasons for God’s commands, but many times there are much deeper truths. It is not just the functionality of having and raising children that compels us to be faithful.
There is a much deeper thing going on here. Having, over the years, come to know God in a very real way, I no longer believe that the love of a man and woman was built entirely around the physical needs of life on Earth or even for child rearing.
The love between a man and a woman was not an added act of pragmatism to make things on Earth work, any more than was the love between God and humanity. It was instead, the starting point around which everything else was built.
The truth is, God calls us to marriage and to giving our heart to only one, because God is a romantic who believes in true love.